Is love possible without the inevitability of loss?
Can true bliss ever be appreciated without pain?
Are we doomed (or blessed?) to forever navigate our lives suspended between joy and suffering?
These are rhetorical questions of course. We know the answers, but we often choose to be blind to vast portions of truth that throb in our hearts and minds. We want infinite love and never-ending joy while succumbing to the linearity of time. We want the happily-ever-after, but without the inevitable ending and regeneration of this earthly life.
They are the demons we fear.
He was out roaming the streets, free and happy. Roaming around the neighborhood and community we all loved, visiting his friends, knowing there was a loving home that would always wait for him.
That fateful night his body was taken away from him by a speeding car, a symbol of humanity’s callousness for the earthen life that sustains us all. That night was when we as a family faced our first (but certainly not last) devastating blow. That night, pain became our eternal companion.
And the questions started pouring in as we held each other, drenched in one another’s tears:
How can life be so cruel?
Why did he have to be taken away from us so soon?
What did we do wrong?
Hell, what’s the bloody point of it all?
The questions are a pitiful exercise in pain management I suppose. The dance with the demons we’re all invited to join, that nobody seeks.
Aye, but here’s the rub…
Deep down, we – his loved ones – don’t want that pain to go away.
For that’s the point of love. It is in pain and loss that love achieves its ultimate realization. It is the gut-wrenching beauty of love. We need those demons. They look fearsome but in reality they are our truest and dearest confidantes.
So all we ask now is that he stay free and happy.
Cos the demons tell me he’ll always be with us…
[Rumi poozy, I love you more than life itself and I always will. My brother and best friend – you’ve given me more joy than I could ever repay. I got some things to take care of in this life – you know love needs nurturing – but I can’t wait to roam this universe with you and Vaddu. Stay awesome.]